Couples therapy is recommended when relationship is a problem.
Common relationship struggles include:
• Lack of satisfaction and enjoyment with your partner
• Constant bickering and fighting
• Infidelity
• Differing ideas of roles, rules, and expectations
• Difficulty transitioning to a parenting roles
• Conflicts with in-laws
• Inability for your partner to get why you are hurting
• Lack of intimacy
Most romantic relationships begin with feelings of excitement, fulfillment, and idealization of each other. Relationship offers a promise of life-long love, friendship, and support. This dream often gets shattered after the honeymoon stage is over. Couples fall into patterns of unresolved, repetitive arguments. Both partners may be left feeling deeply disappointed, misunderstood, angry, and attacked. The original “paradise” may feel lost forever.
If this sounds familiar – your relationship got stuck in the power struggle which is usually focused around allocation of time, sex and intimacy, home and social life, personal habits/ hobbies, privacy, finances, parenting, religion, difficulty deciding to move to the next stage of your relationship... Underneath the struggles that affect you the most – are the ultimate questions like: Am I the MOST important person in your life? Do I matter to you? Can I trust and count on you? Are you there for me when I need you the most? When partners don’t hear the underlying questions or repeatedly disappoint each other when it comes to these questions – relationship gets into serious trouble.
As your couples therapist I work hard to help you re-establish emotional safety and joy you once shared with each other by teaching you hands-on effective communication skills to help you really hear the ultimate questions and to respond in a way that matters.
The key is realizing that by healing your partner – you are healing yourself.